You can't hug a porcupine!
Have you ever had a situation in your life where you try so hard to get on with family or perhaps a friend and no matter what you do the relationship just doesn’t work? I have !! It is very difficult to come to terms with and for me it took 12 years of banging my head against a wall to realise that you just can’t hug a porcupine.??Spiritually it is a hard lesson to learn. You see, we all think that if we have a relationship problem it's important to keep working away at it... striving to work through the issues time and time again. We feel that it's the right thing to do. I would say that any issue, relationship or otherwise, should be worked through... but when does it all become too much and enough is enough? Usually when one or the other party becomes bitter and twisted or so desperately unhappy that life isn't worth the effort.?? We seem to feel spiritually that it's the right thing to do.... work this problem to the end, we feel it's a lesson to learn. Consider this.... what if the lesson is not about the problem at all? I believe sometimes the lesson isn't about trying.... it's about walking away. It's about understanding that we have a right to say.... THERE IS NO MORE I CAN DO!
Saying this is not wrong!! Sometimes there is a duty of care to ourselves to walk away. If we have tried to repair, to reconcile, to heal and we constantly meet resistance, then the lesson may well be to learn to walk away.
You will know if you have done all you can do. It can be one of the most painful experiences when you have to walk away. It's not unlike the grief process we experience when we lose a loved one in many ways. ??If you have truly made the effort, done all you feel you can do, then although the walking away will be a painful experience, it is one that will liberate your soul and perhaps... just perhaps, the very act of walking away will be a lesson the other party needs to learn as well.
Remember you just can't hug a porcupine!!